The Secret to Being Happy

There seems to be a lot of confusion out in the world about what it really takes to make you happy. That makes me sad, because my mother has already taught me the secret to being happy. I’ve known it since I was a little girl. That doesn’t mean that I’ve always lived it perfectly, and I can tell you, I notice a big difference in my happiness levels when I don’t follow that secret to being happy. Would you like to know what it is, too? I’ll tell you. I’ll let the secret out of the bag. The secret to being happy isn’t getting the perfect handbag to match your stockings, nor is it attaining perfection when grooming your eyebrows. Yes, these things are majorly satisfying, and perhaps at time they seem to be as elusive as lasting happiness. But they will not last. Your stockings will get a run in them, and your unwanted eyebrow hairs will grow back. No, the secret to being happy is something else entirely. The secret to being happy is to make other people happy. Here are some ways to apply that secret.

Serve Others- You don’t have to be someone’s slave to give them service. You can do things that will lighten the load that someone else carries, especially if you’re in a relationship. No, I’m not saying to let yourself get pushed around. I am saying that you should focus on helping those around, and those special to you.  My husband is extremely important to me. I love him. I do what I can to make him happy. I make him lunches to take to work, I give him kisses when he comes home, I help him find socks that sort of match, I watch him play Zelda (which is no horrid thing for me- I like Zelda!) and loudly encourage him to beat the bad guys, I make sure he has manly soap so he doesn’t have to use my girly stuff. Doing little things adds up. It adds up to make you feel useful, needed, satisfied, fulfilled, and happy.

Share the Happy Moments In Your Day- When you’re talking to your friends or your beloved, don’t dwell on the downers that are happening. No one fancies a Negative Nancy! Not only is it annoying, it also brings everyone down. Focus on the good things in life. This doesn’t mean that you can’t share or seek consolation for your sorrows and worries. If you didn’t, that wouldn’t be healthy. You don’t have to be a naive and pathetic brand of optimist in order to be happy. But you definitely shouldn’t ignore all of the great things going on in your life, especially the great things that come from the people around you. The more that you lift up others with your positivity, the more that you yourself will be lifted. Compliment and Admire Others- Not only should you not dawdle in the land of whining and negativity, you should move yourself into the land of treasure hunting! There is something good about every person. Find it. Yes, sometimes you have to look harder, but you can do it. You can find it! Then compliment and show your admiration for that person. You’ll be amazed at how much of a difference this will make in both yourself and the recipients of your benevolence. When I compliment my husband on his achievements at work, on his appearances, or whatever wonderful thing he has done that day, he feels like he really is worthwhile and noteworthy. Making him feel good about himself and helping to build up his confidence helps me to recognize what a lucky girl I am that I am married to such a good man. This simple act will help you not only to lift others, but it will also help you to hone your skills in finding the goodly traits of those around you. When you are less judgmental, and more kind, you will be happier.

Be Grateful and Share That Gratitude- Find the blessings in your life, and then share that gratitude. Maybe you share it in your journal. Maybe you share it with your friend, your mother, or your man. Don’t only be grateful for things or people. Be grateful for the kindnesses that others have shown you. Be grateful, and share that gratitude with the person who has rendered service to you. Acknowledge the goodness in the people with whom you interact, and then tell them you appreciate them. Tell them in both words and actions. Doing this will help you to recognize just how great you’ve got it, and your life will be happier because of that knowledge. So now I challenge you. Now that you know the secret to being happy, do something about it. I challenge you to do one of each of the actions every day.

Each day, find someone to serve. It can be as simple as a smile, or something like walking all the way up to campus in the pouring rain because you know that your sweetheart left his coat and umbrella at home that morning.

Each day, find a happy moment, and then share that happy moment with someone else. If others are all talking about their dissatisfaction with a situation, then be the one to find something happy to share. It can be as simple as someone smiling at you, or the fact that it is no longer pouring buckets out, and your hair won’t get ruined now.

Each day, find a sincere compliment to offer another person. It can be as simple as liking a girl’s cute dress, or the efficient way that the person next to you is working through their busy list.

Each day, find something to be grateful for, and then share that gratitude. It can be as simple as your favorite song coming on the radio, or the fact that you did well on a project due to the help of other people. I can promise that your life will become happier as you follow this secret rule. Life isn’t about you. Life is meant to be shared. The more that you follow this simple concept, the better your relationships will be. The more that you follow this, the happier you will be.


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