Does your toddler or young child have night terrors? Mine used to.. maybe I can help! Here’s my story:
Ever since we moved to our new apartment, my 3, now 4-year old, Tristan, has been having nightmares. Nightmares of monsters, and ghosts, and being helpless. At first, I thought it was from TV shows he watched, so we changed his shows to only toddler shows (because even G-rated kids’ shows will have lots of fighting). I’m not sure if they’re considered night terrors or what, but he’s been crying and fighting in his sleep randomly, and jumping off out of his bed to come get us at odd hours of the night. I thought maybe it had something to do with the anxieties of being in a new place, mommy getting married, and having a new baby sister. I felt so bad for him, and so helpless like there was nothing I could do to relieve him.
I have a new friend, Nadine, whose son was hospitalized for many months, and she suggested talking to Tristan when he sleeps, which helped her son fight off the ailment that he suffered. She said even though the child does not hear it, it enters their subconscious and comforts them. So I tried it.
Every night for the past 4 days, after Tristan fell asleep, I stood by his bedside and said encouraging words like “You are strong. You are brave. You are wonderful and so so loved. You are amazing. Mommy and Daddy love you so so much. You’re a great big brother.” And for the past 4 days, Tristan has slept better, hasn’t wet his bed (yes, even that was an issue), hasn’t woken up in the middle of the night, and has even come to us in the morning saying he had GOOD dreams of himself being a superhero and having superpowers and flying. He’s doing great!
I’m not 100% positive if there is a correlation between talking to him as he sleeps and his good dreams, but it’s worked for us the past 4 days and I will continue doing it. Thanks Nadine!